1. What do you do for a living?
I own my own automotive window tinting and detailing shop with my boyfriend of 6 years in Newton, KS.
2. Why did you want to do a boudoir session?
I was overweight in high school but was lucky enough to never see myself as overweight until my dad was diagnosed with diabetes and as a family our eating habits changed. When I went to buy clothes for the new school year all of a sudden I need several sizes smaller- that was the day I lost trust in my perspective of myself. I had never thought of myself as overweight but was now confronted by the fact that over three months I had become drastically skinny- to the point people questioned my health or whether I was on drugs- and I stopped being able to really look at myself in the mirror. I would give myself a quick glance to be sure I was decent enough to be in public but I wouldn’t look at myself long enough to find my flaws.
Then an amazing man came into my life and I started to see myself as beautiful again. I stopped wearing make-up and was more confident with my body and myself in general until the day I was pinned between two vehicles alone at work because of a bad gear shift and found myself unable to walk for two weeks because of the damage to my right leg. Because of my lack of health insurance it took over a year to do the proper tests to find that it was a blood clot that was now beyond the point of removing without doing more damage to my leg so I’m better off living with a large lump and lack of feeling than trying to have surgery. That same month I found out I had a high-concern strain of HPV and had to undergo a biopsy that revealed abnormal cells that would most likely lead to cervical cancer. At 24 years old I was being confronted with a blood clot in my leg and now would have to hope that non-aggressive acid treatments would still allow me to one day become a mother. As anyone can imagine, at this point I no longer felt like a beautiful young woman in her prime but rather a damaged shell of who I once was and who may now have one of the most beautiful parts of being a woman taken away from me. Through it all I have been fortunate enough to have man who still strives to make me feel sexy, who has tried to never make me feel self-conscious about my leg or my other health issues and above all has loved me for who I am unconditionally and because of this I realized I could either continue to feel bad about myself or I could find a way to see myself through his eyes and be the woman he sees me as. I knew the only way I was going to see myself in that light would be to very literally put myself in that light and that is when I discovered Wallflower.
3. What made you choose Wallflower?
I specifically learned about Wallflower through Facebook promotions over that last year or so. A few months ago after I had really committed to myself that I wanted to research more on boudoir, I had some conversations with women that included phrases like “He’s kind of skeevy but as long as he knows you’re taken he won’t try anything” and “He’ll only charge like $100 for everything, no contracts” and “He does it out of his garage behind his house” and that was when I knew I needed to find someplace that I would not only feel comfortable and safe but I would have a fun experience without worrying where my pictures might end up afterward. Having seen some advertisements for Wallflower, I looked more at your Facebook page and then at your website was very, very impressed. From the client interviews to the before and afters, it was clear that this was the place for a woman to find her sexy!
4. Were you nervous at all to do your shoot?
Not in the least. I was more nervous to make that initial contact after I have made the commitment to myself to do this. Having the bonus of a consultation and coming to see the studio and visit with Christina made a huge difference in knowing what to expect on shoot day as well. Once I was there and having Kayla do my hair and make-up I was ready to enjoy every minute of the experience. I was probably most nervous/anxious to wait a whole week to actually get to see my amazing photos!
5. What was your favorite part of the experience?
The “All-About-Me” attitude of it all. Most women, myself included, exhaust themselves trying to bring happiness to everyone around them and forget to take care of themselves. You get lost in all your roles and duties in life and forget to appreciate the beautiful woman you are and this experience brings that back for women. Not only do you get pampered with hair and make-up (Kayla is amazing!) but you spend the day listening to Christina tell you how amazing you are! You spend the day feeling sexy, all the while knowing that you will have a beautiful album (or whatever product) to remember it all by and remind you of your beauty every single day!
6. What would you tell a friend if they were thinking about doing a boudoir session?
DO IT! This is an investment in yourself that you will be so thankful for afterwards! Yes, it makes a great gift for your partner but in my opinion every woman should experience something like this and know that no matter what society thinks, every woman is gorgeous in her own way!
7. What was it like to see your photos?
Breathtaking. At first there were a couple of pictures that the first things I noticed were my flaws but I very quickly realized how much I loved that. There was no question that the beautiful woman in those photos was me and I was ready to embrace it all! As humans we will always see problems with ourselves but having these photos lets me see how amazing I can be, flaws included.
8. Was everything what you expected it to be when you first got in touch?
Honestly I kept my expectations pretty low when I first reached out. Not really knowing what this experience might be like I wanted to keep an open mind and was oh so pleasantly surprised by all the benefits that comes from doing your shoot through Wallflower.
9. Do you see yourself differently after having your session?
I still see my flaws, but now I feel I will continue to learn to love them and love myself even more for them.