1. What do you do for a living?
I am a mother of three ranging from ages 8-13 and I’m a teacher, so I spend all of my time surrounded by kids. When I want a little adult time I can be found in a classroom or library working towards my Masters degree in administration. Just in case I might have any spare time I also work in direct sales for a makeup company.
2. Why did you want to do a boudoir session?
I spent 10 years with a man who physically and mentally beat me down. I felt worthless in every aspect of my life. When I left him 5 1/2 years ago I couldn’t imagine ever loving myself or having anyone love me. I spent time focusing on my kids and my career and slowly learned to appreciate my strength, my wisdom, and my heart. In that journey I found my now husband and my very best friend. I can say that every moment of my life before him created this perfect mate for him and allowed us to connect and rebuild one another and for that I am grateful. He has helped me to overcome so many emotional hurdles and more than that, he has shown me that I am capable of overcoming the worst all on my own. He has helped to empower me. The idea of a boudoir session came to me as I was contemplating what to give to this man who has and continues to give me so much. He never asks for anything! When I first started thinking through the idea I wasn’t sure I would ever be able to go through with it. That seemed entirely too vulnerable to me. I couldn’t imagine exposing myself so readily. However, as the next year progressed I continued to toy with the idea and started in depth research on local boudoir photographers. Every time I circled back to Christina. In the mean time I started taking care of me again. I went back to exercising, eating healthier, taking time for hobbies, and I even jumped into a direct sales position I had been interested in. Things started falling together. More and more I was tackling challenges and beating odds and receiving accolades. I was finding me again and believing more and more in my value and it just hit me one day. I had to have my boudoir session, for me and for my [husband].
3. What made you choose Wallflower?
This wasn’t a quick decision for me and I knew it needed to be just right if and when I did it. I spent hours searching for local boudoir photographers. Then, I spread my search to Toronto, ON (yes, Canada) as my husband is from there and we make frequent enough visits that I knew I could schedule there. In such a large city there are so many talented options, but I kept coming back to Wallflower and Christina. Every review I read, every image of hers I looked at, every blog/FB posting she scripted, and even her video clips just made me feel comfortable. I believed and could easily see her talent, but even more was that I believed in her professionalism, her heart, and her genuine desire to show women their unique beauty. Ultimately, I followed my feeling.
4. Were you nervous at all to do your shoot?
Oh my goodness, so nervous, but it was mixed with excitement. I had spent so much time researching local boudoir photographers that I knew it was going to be a fabulous experience and that the pictures would be beautiful still frames for my husband and I to enjoy for many years.
5. What was your favorite part of the experience?
It is so difficult to narrow down the experience to a single definable favorite moment. The day of the session itself was full of a million favorite moments. Moments which I won’t stop thinking about for quite some time, moments which allowed me to fully indulge in my beauty. Beyond that, the moment of first glimpsing my images was again, breathtaking. It was so unbelievable to see me so vulnerable, yet so full of strength and appeal. My sass and personality were leaping out in every shot while showcasing every curve.
6. What would you tell a friend if they were thinking about doing a boudoir session?
Do it. Don’t overthink it. Stop giving yourself all of the reasons not to and start thinking about all of the reasons to do it! It is an investment that women should make, that they deserve. I know that I’m still reveling in the feelings from the session and from my first viewing. I am looking forward to reliving those feelings each and every time I get to open my album.
7. What was it like to see your photos?
Breathtaking. It was a moment I had been excitedly waiting for since leaving the session on an exuberant high and then anxiously wondering about in the days/hours leading up to it. Truly though, I couldn’t have prepared myself for what I saw and what I experienced. I felt so powerful and womanly and perfect. At first blush I couldn’t get over how beautiful I was. I have never pictured myself that way. As we sat there I started to allow that monster of self doubt to peek out and I allowed those insecurities to creep in and I wanted to find fault with the pictures. I was looking for imperfections. This woman couldn’t possibly be me. Then, I took a breath and I looked at Christina’s honest face and listened to her affirmations and I considered the photos again. I started to think about my husband’s perception of me, all of the times he has built me up and I’ve believed his words and I choose to stop allowing insecurity to ruin this moment. Just like that I was back to reality. Here were beautiful images of a hardworking, driven, intelligent mother and wife. Here were beautiful images of me.
8. Was everything what you expected it to be when you first got in touch?
Everything was more. All I can tell you is that Christina will surround you in knowledge and support and encouragement. She will be there to answer any and all questions from day one emails or calls to the consultation and beyond. The day I left the consultation I couldn’t wait to get back and shoot with her. The day of the shoot was like a fairy tale. Makeup by Rue had me feeling like a beauty queen (talk about pampering), and then Christina truly did all the work. She was open to any and all ideas and was quick to find a way to put “me” into the shoot. I loved the little nods she fit in that related to my husband and myself. It made it all the more special.
9. Do you see yourself differently after having your session?
My journey of healing feels like it reached a pinnacle. It’s a journey so it never ends, but I feel like I’m coming out on the other side of it. I can tell you that 6 years ago I believed I was nothing. I saw no purpose for my being. The road to meeting Christina was a long one. The leap of faith I took to reach out to her completely paid off! I left my photo session beaming. I felt so empowered and uplifted by the experience. I was full of anticipation and joy. I couldn’t wait to see my images. Once I did, well, it is still hard to believe that it’s me, but it is. Sitting here thinking about it has me tearing all over again. Right now I can only imagine the additional joy which will come from my husband’s first viewing. I will have to update once that occurs!
10. Anything else you’d like to throw out there?
Only that investing in yourself pays off with the biggest rewards and those rewards trickle down through every avenue of your life to inspire and uplift others. So, give yourself the right to experience this joy and know that it’s not selfish. An empowered you is simply a better version of you and isn’t life really all about pushing yourself to grow and develop to continually become the BEST you each and every day?